Adjusting After A Separation or Divorce

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2. I am physically and emotionally exhausted from morning until night.
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3. I am constantly thinking of my former love partner.
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4. I feel rejected by many of the friends I had when I was in the love relationship.
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5. I become upset when I think about my former love partner.
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6. I like being the person I am.
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7. I feel like crying because I feel so sad.
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8. I can communicate with my former love partner in a calm and rational manner.
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9. There are many things about my personaIity I would like to change.
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10. It is easy for me to accept my becoming a single person.
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11. I feel depressed.
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12. I feel emotionally separated from my former love partner.
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13. People would not like me if they got to know me.
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14. I feel comfortable seeing and talking to my former love partner.
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15. I feel like I am an attractive person.
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16. I feel as though I am in a daze and the world doesn’t seem real.
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17. I find myself doing things just to please my former love partner.
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18. I feel lonely.
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19. There are many things about my body I would like to change.
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20. I have many plans and goals for the future.
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21. I feel I don’t have much sex appeal.
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22. I am relating and interacting in many new ways with people since my separation.
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23. Joining a singles’ group would make me feel I was a loser like them.
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24. It is easy for me to organize my daily routine of living.
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25. I find myself making excuses to see and talk to my former love partner.
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26. Because my love relationship failed, I must be a failure.
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27. I feel like unloading my feelings of anger and hurt upon my former love partner.
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28. I feel comfortable being with people.
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29. I have trouble concentrating.
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30. I think of my former love partner as related to me rather than as a separate person.
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31. I feel like an okay person.
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32. I hope my former love partner is feeling as much or more emotional pain than I am.
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33. I have close friends who know and understand me.
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34. I am unable to control my emotions.
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35. I feel capable of building a deep and meaningful love relationship.
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36. I have trouble sleeping.
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37. I easily become angry at my former love partner.
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38. I am afraid to trust people who might become love partners.
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39. Because my love relationship ended, I feel there must be something wrong with me.
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40. I either have no appetite or eat continuously which is unusual for me.
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41. I don’t want to accept the fact that our love relationship is ending.
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42. I force myself to eat even though I’m not hungry.
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43. I have given up on my former love partner and getting back together.
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44. I feel very frightened inside.
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45. It is important that my family, friends, and associates be on my side rather than on my former love partner’s side.
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46. I feel uncomfortable even thinking about dating.
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47. I feel capable of living the kind of life I would like to live.
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48. I have noticed my body weight is changing a great deal.
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49. I believe if we try, my love partner and I can save our love relationship.
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50. My abdomen feels empty and hollow.
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51. I have feelings of romantic love for my former love partner.
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52. I can make the decisions I need to because I know and trust my feelings.
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53. I would like to get even with my former love partner for hurting me.
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54. I avoid people even though I want and need friends.
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55. I have really made a mess of my life.
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56. I sigh a lot.
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57. I believe it is best for all concerned to have our love relationship end.
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58. I perform my daily activities in a mechanical and unfeeling manner.
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59. I become upset when I think about my love partner having a love relationship with someone else.
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60. I feel capable of facing and dealing with my problems.
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61. I blame my former love partner for the failure of our love relationship.
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62. I am afraid of becoming sexually involved with another person.
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63. I feel adequate as a fe/male love partner.
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64. It will only be a matter of time until my love partner and I get back together.
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65. I feel detached and removed from activities around me as though I were watching them on a movie screen.
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66. I would like to continue having a sexual relationship with my former love partner.
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67. Life is somehow passing me by.
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68. I feel comfortable going by myself to a public place such as a movie.
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69. It is good to feel alive again after having felt numb and emotionally dead.
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70. I feel I know and understand myself.
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71. I feel emotionally committed to my former love partner.
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72. I want to be with people but I feel emotionally distant from them.
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73. I am the type of person I would like to have for a friend.
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74. I am afraid of becoming emotionally close to another love partner.
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75. Even on the days when I am feeling good, I may suddenly become sad and start crying.
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76. I can’t believe our love relationship is ending.
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77. I become upset when I think about my love partner dating someone.
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78. I have a normal amount of self-confidence.
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79. People seem to enjoy being with me.
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80. Morally and spiritually, I believe it is wrong for our love relationship to end.
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81. I wake up in the morning feeling there is no good reason to get out of bed.
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82. I find myself daydreaming about all the good times I had with my love partner.
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83. People want to have a love relationship with me because I feel like a lovable person.
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84. I want to hurt my former love partner by letting him/her know how much I hurt emotionally.
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85. I feel comfortable going to social events even though I am single.
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86. I feel guilty about my love relationship ending.
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87. I feel emotionally insecure.
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88. I feel uncomfortable even thinking about having a sexual relationship.
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89. I feel emotionally weak and helpless.
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90. I think about ending my life with suicide.
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91. I understand the reasons why our love relationship did not work out.
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92. I feel comfortable having my friends know our love relationship is ending.
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93. I am angry about the things my former love partner has been doing.
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94. I feel like I am going crazy.
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95. I am unable to perform sexually.
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96. I feel as though I am the only single person in a couples-only society.
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97. I feel like a single person rather than a married person.
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98. I feel my friends look at me as unstable now that I’m separated.
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99. I daydream about being with and talking to my former love partner.
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100. I need to improve my feelings of self-worth about being a wo/man.
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