Child and Youth Counselling Services in Kelowna – What You Need To Know

By Christina Fenske

Recently, we shared insights on what to anticipate during your initial counselling session in response to inquiries from first-time counselling seekers. Today, we’re addressing more specific queries regarding counselling appointments for children and youth, particularly with a Registered Clinical Counsellor and Registered Social Worker in Kelowna, West Kelowna and throughout British Columbia.

Consent and Confidentiality in Children’s Counselling Kelowna

Consent to Counselling

A common question we encounter is, “Who can provide consent for treatment, and can my child do so?” It’s a bit complex, especially in situations like parental separation and divorce. In general, one or both parents should consent for their child to receive counselling from a Registered Clinical Counsellor and Registered Social Workers. If there are no court orders involved, either parent can give consent. However, we encourage both parents to consent and provide background information, as it usually benefits the child.

As for when a child can consent to their own counseling, there’s no strict age limit in BC. The widely accepted age is 14, but if a child is deemed a “mature minor,” they may consent as early as age 12, provided they understand what they’re agreeing to. Orchard Valley Counselling Services Inc, we often use 14 yrs old as a guideline.

Confidentiality in Counselling for Children

Parents might feel uneasy about their child attending counselling sessions without them present. We understand this concern, but counselling relies on a trust-based client-counsellor relationship. If children believe that their counselor will disclose everything to their parents, trust may be compromised.

Our Registered Clinical Counsellors and Social Workers at OVCS are responsible for their professional practice. The extent of parental involvement may vary, but most counsellors aim to collaborate with parents while considering the child’s comfort and therapeutic rapport. Confidentiality can be breached without consent if there’s an immediate risk to the child, but this is at the counsellor’s discretion and guided by professional ethics.

Who Attends the First Appointment?

The attendance at the first appointment depends on the child’s age and preferences. For younger children (around 12 years or younger), the initial session often involves parents alone. This allows the counsellor to gather history, answer questions, and address concerns. It may also be divided between parents and the child if deemed beneficial.

For older children, it’s primarily up to the child’s choice. If they want their parents present, that’s what we’ll arrange. However, if they prefer to attend alone, it’s typically just the child and the counsellor. This approach helps build trust and allows for boundary setting.

How Can I Support My Child During Counselling?

Encourage Your Child

Counselling can be intimidating for anyone, especially children. Encourage your child by emphasizing that it’s a safe place to discuss their feelings and challenges. Make it clear that counselling isn’t about fixing something wrong with them but about working through life’s difficulties.

It can also help to share your own experiences with counselling if you’ve had them, within age-appropriate limits. Knowing that you’ve sought help too can provide reassurance.

Avoid Interrogating Your Child

While you may be curious about the sessions, avoid interrogating your child afterward. Instead, ask open-ended questions like, “Is there anything you’d like to share about your time with the counsellor?” Respect their readiness to talk and don’t pressure them.

Understanding the Reports You Receive

Understand that what your child reports may not always be the full story. Assume that the counsellor has the child’s best interests at heart and inquire if you have concerns.

Trust the Counsellor and Your Child

Trusting someone else with your child’s well-being can be unnerving. Recognize that trust is a two-way street between parents and therapists. We’re dedicated to your child’s welfare and aim to include you in ways that benefit your child and your family.

Conclusion

We hope this article addresses some of your questions regarding counselling appointments for children and youth. Sending your child to a counsellor for the first time can be daunting, but we’re here to help. Please feel free to ask any questions when booking appointments, and we’ll provide the best answers we can to support your child’s well-being.

Email us today for more details at Admin@ovcs.ca.