Love by definition is…friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses. – Ann Landers
What makes love work well? Look at some of the characteristics at the heart of a loving relationship:
- Someone who is dependable in times of need
- Reciprocating support through a give and take relationship
- Sharing and understanding ones’ own needs
- Accepting someone for who they are and not trying to change them
- Communicating by being honest and open
You may not find the love you want if you love too easily, feel you overly deserve love, fantasize about unattainable goals, and a need for love more than what usual in relationships.
Love is not, about intense jealousy, controlling someone else to do what you want them too, and when the sparks stop flying(everyone goes through this stage).
It’s critical that when you do find the love you want that you identify and share with your partner what you both want and that you both agree.
When you choose a partner be clear, concise about what you want because if you focus on what you don’t want, that’s what you will get. The reason is our thoughts can create our reality. Just like a ship with little or no navigation equipment, it won’t go any where because it has no direction so it will either stay in one spot or spin in circles. Make sure you know what direction you want to go in and what your goals are in getting what you want. Seek out like minded people and groups to find the love you want. This way you will always have something in common to connect too.
Happy Middle Aged Couple
When choosing the right partner for you…
- Take your time getting to know the person first before getting too serious too quickly
- Look for someone your compatible with first. Long lasting relationships are based on compatibility, commonalities, and maturity.
- Seek a partner who is kind, respects you and who’s values match yours.
- If you have children make sure your aware of their parenting style and if it’s compatible with your values and beliefs. That’s why you may want to start by re-assessing your beliefs and expectations about love—especially if you’ve been burned repeatedly or have a poor track record when it comes to dating.
Learning how to keep things in perspective, watch for red flags, and deal with trust issues will put you on the path to finding a loving relationship that lasts.
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